In today’s modern world, with rumours of high profile celebrity hook-ups and the ability to easily share our own photos with a secret friend, it can often seem like sex, or at the very least some innocent snogging, is on everyone’s mind. With such thoughts in mind, today we’ll be exploring five common reasons why men and women start an affair. For each reason, we’ll look a little bit at the differences between the sexes to better understand what gets everyone ready to dive under the covers with someone other than their spouse.
1. The state of a marriage
Marriages, like people, come in all shapes and sizes, strengths and passions. While it might seem odd, often times for men, the best periods in their marriage coincides with their desire to get in the sack with someone else. During these times of marital strength, men are more often likely to feel confident and at their best. Increased confidence gives them that necessary boost to talk to the cute girl down the hall or the hot barmaid down the local. However, for women, the opposite is often true. When their husbands aren’t hitting the mark, it’s tempting to seek out a stronger candidate who can provide that sense of quality that they might not be getting at home.
2. Throw in some excitement and spontaneity
No one wants to be bored with their lives. While routines and schedules can be comfortable, nearly all people seek out a bit of danger in their week. For both men and women, a marital affair can offer just that, a bit of risk with a great reward. Women especially enjoy the feeling that anything can happen, allowing them to feel a surge of enjoyment that may be novel in a mundane world. Men on the other hand, love the thrill of the chase.
3. The perfect chance to explore fantasies
One of the best reasons for having an affair is the sexual exploration. For men, this might give them the chance to try a few taboo desires that they’ve long had, without feeling that they have to deal with the judgement afterward. For women, a different partner gives them the chance to imagine a world of possibilities behind a man who is somewhat mysterious. In both cases, men and women are free to role-play or push the limits in a way that a conventional relationship might not allow.
4. Getting rid of all that stress
Let’s be honest: it’s easy to be stressed out with careers, family and friends, and even with ourselves. For both men and women, some extra sex, without all the work of another relationship, can be just what the doctor ordered. It’s healthy, relaxing, and best of all, more than a little fun. There’s hardly a better way to forget about your problems for a few hours.
5. A once in a lifetime chance vs the old flame
For men, it’s often hard to pass up that chance to shag the workplace crush that has an amazing body. All he can think about is whether this will be that his one and only chance that may never come again. A one night marital affair gives him the opportunity to make the score he’s always dreamed of. For women, it can often be the old flame, that handsome guy who they dated for several years, but that didn’t work out. Sure, the relationship didn’t work, but that doesn’t mean that the sex wasn’t great… or still can’t be great every once in a while.
With so many good reasons, it’s not difficult to see why many people choose to have an extramarital affair. Whether it’s some simple flirting or a mind-blowing shag in the backseat of a car during lunch – there’s plenty of fun for everyone.