Let’s face it; the vast majority of people who indulge in a little extramarital action are in it to add a little spice to their lives. They’re bored with the same old same old. They want to inject a little something into their sex lives in order to get the thrills they once knew or to fulfil a long held fantasy that has consumed their minds for what seems like forever.
Thankfully, with the help of a willing adult dating partner, these dreams can become a reality when you indulge in a little role-play. However, many of us simply don’t know how to broach the subject in order to get what we want from our discreet sexual encounters, but fear not – we’re here to help. Here are our top five tips for getting your role-playing action down to a fine art, let’s dive in:
1) Preparation is key
Too many people think that everything has to be spontaneous when having an affair, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Be upfront about what you want and negotiate your roles ahead of time. Even speaking about what you want to do can be a massive turn on, so why hold back? Lay your cards on the table and let your partner know what you want to indulge in.
2) Choose your characters
Once you’ve got your scenario down the fun really starts. Now is the time to choose your characters for the time you’ll spend together. Are you going to be the fitness instructor and the student, or maybe the doctor and the patient? Whichever characters you choose, planning it out together should be fun and exciting, so make the most of this tantalising stage.
3) Get the kit
If you are going to start role-playing then you really may as well go the whole-hog. Choose your costumes and make sure that any props you need will be close to hand when you begin your little game together. Adding these extra touches will make all the difference to your experience.
4) Keep communicating
Role-playing is only fun if both parties are fully up for the encounter. While you are planning your session together it is vitally important that you keep reassuring each other about your willingness to participate. Should you have any doubts at all, make your feelings heard. It’s much better to get things out in the open than to let any misgivings linger. Anyway, if either one of you really isn’t interested neither partner is going to get what they want from the experience. Role-playing is an act, but it needs to be believable nonetheless.
Once you have had your first role-playing session and enjoyed the time that you’ve spent together, why stop there? Start planning your next scenario and push the boundaries a little further. Role-playing can become truly outrageous once you develop an element of trust between you, so why not go for it? So long as you are both consenting you’re sure to have the time of your lives.