While it is impossible to determine exact figures, it is estimated that in the U.S. and the U.K. between 40% and 80% of men have engaged in at least one affair since tying the knot. This will surely come as no surprise to many of you reading this as we are conditioned to think that men are always the ones who do the cheating in a relationship. However, the statistics that say between 25% and 70% of women have also been involved in at least one extramarital affair may raise a few eyebrows at the next Women’s Institute meeting.
In the past couple of years, the number of women engaged in affairs has seen a steady increase, but don’t be too quick to assume they want their marriages to end. Approximately 35% of women within the ages of 25 and 34 and 30% of women between the age of 35 and 44 have participated in an affair. However, this is not because they do not love their spouse. In fact, 77% say they are still in love with their long term partner. Conversely, 95% admit that they are not in love with their sex partner and the percentage of women engaged in affairs who have a desire to leave their spouse is a mere 12%.
Why are more women involved in an extramarital affair now than in the past?
Women have spent decades fighting sexism and they have worked their way up the corporate ladder to be on an equal footing with their male counterparts. This has given them greater confidence and women are beginning to understand that if they can easily assert their power in the boardroom, then they should be able to do this in the bedroom too. Simply put, women no longer have to put up with a disappointing sex life.
In addition, technology makes it much simpler to meet a partner. In the past, it was just not that easy. Today, women can easily access someone that is looking for the same things that they are and arrange to meet up whenever the mood takes them.
What are women looking for in an extramarital affair?
Most women are rarely interested in one night stands, and they also have no intention of leaving their marriages. What they want is someone they can trust and meet up with a few times a month to fulfil a part of their lives that is otherwise missing. They want to be sexually satisfied and then resume their normal lives, with their long term partner or spouse and their children.
The truth is that men and women both engage in extramarital affairs and this is not the negative behaviour that it was thought to be in the past. In fact, men and women who are sexually satisfied tend to be happier and less stressed in their everyday life. Having an affair can actually improve their marriage which, in turn, leads to more fulfilling lives. Shouldn’t everyone be striving for that?