These days if you love experiencing all things erotic then the best place to find what you’re looking for is on an adult dating website. There are lots of adult dating sites out there and most of them have a unique service allowing you to send private messages to other members. These messages are the best way to get to know other people on the site and work out whether or not you’d like to meet up.
On adult dating sites the men outweigh the women quite substantially, so if you’re a guy the best approach is to send lots of messages to lots of women. One route to try is reading their profiles and picking something they’ve said to make a comment about. This will show you’re interested in them and not just sending random messages around.
Once you’ve got a conversation going it’s a good idea to talk about what you’re looking for as early as possible. Remember, you’re not seeking a life partner here so get to the nitty gritty otherwise you could be wasting heaps of time on someone who doesn’t share your proclivities.
There are some women who will respond to the ‘bold as brass’ approach when it comes to messaging, but it’s more advisable to say something flirty, friendly and fun first if you don’t want to run the risk of putting people off.
Because men outweigh women on adult dating sites it’s usually down to the guys to do the legwork, which means if you’re male you shouldn’t expect to be bombarded with messages. If you do receive a message but you’re not sure about the person, it’s a good idea to message back anyway because it’s very hard to ascertain whether you’ll click without at least a little conversation.
If you’re a girl then you’ll be in high demand, so you’ll end up with a lot of messages. In fact, you may get so many that they’re impossible to view. The best way to narrow down the field is by setting search filters in your preferences so you can look for people close to you, within a certain age group or with particular interests.
How Long to Message
On conventional dating sites most people wait a week or two before they meet and spend a lot of time chatting online and on the phone, but with an adult dating site things don’t work in quite the same way.
Looking for an illicit encounter is very different from looking for a life partner, so you don’t need to spend weeks getting to know someone before you meet. It’s much easier to be forthright on this type of site and discuss expectations for the date, but it’s always essential to remember that meeting a stranger for the first time does carry a certain amount of risk whether you’re a man or a woman so always choose a public place and make sure someone knows where you’re going and when you’ll be back.