A new study suggests that infidelity is growing in Britain, with the likelihood of your partner having an affair growing as our ‘I want, I need’ culture continues to grow.
This Look Magazine article looks at how monogamy is not a natural instinct going some way to explain why so many people do stray. I also tackles the potential positives of going through a partners infidelity and ponders if in fact it may be a healthy thing for the relationship in the long term.
At Marital Affair we know how popular extra marital affairs can be. With over 600,000 active members we see on a daily basis how popular this taboo subject has become, and just how much it is growing. Read below to see our favourite excerpts as ‘Look’ explains that the idea of monogamy is very much in free fall.
…a new book says up to two-thirds of married women and three quarters of married me in the UK have cheated and of all the couples who go for therapy, 25% are there because of an affair. So whether we’re married, living together or dating, why do we risk everything to play away?
Kate Figes, author of Our Cheating Hearts: Love & Loyalty, Lust & Lies, spent three years researching why adultery is so common in Britain, and some sharp words of advice for us all. “It’s tim to get real about infidelity, rather than hoping it won’t happen,” says Kate. “We all know people who’ve been touched by it, so chances are it will happen to you. Most of us manage to be monogamous most of the time, but there’s likely to be a time where one or both of you will go off the rails.”
Studies show accessibility plays the biggest part in affairs-60% start in the workplace-but the web makes it easier than ever. Paul Graham is CEO of MaritalAffair.co.uk which has a database of 650,000 members. He says that while only 35% of its users are female, they’re more active on the site than men. “Most people think that it’s men who are the randy ones, but women seem to be the dark horses,” says Paul.
…that follows research last year saying men who had a dose of the hormone oxytocin (the one released when you orgasm) stayed away from attractive women. But dosing up our fellas with anti-cheating pills is hardly ideal. According to Suzie, stopping your man from cheating and yourself from feeling like you want to stray starts and finishes in the bedroom. “Passive monogamy is naive and dangerous,” she warns.